Table of ContentsYou cannot spend your way out of a learning problem. 4 Self-Reflection exercises to help you get through the Messy Middle and Embrace Learning and Change:Beware of the Urge To Bypass Your Learning CurveDiscomfort in the Learning Curve Power Questions To Keep Moving Through The Learning CurveEmbrace The Learning Curve
You have to learn your way out. To do that you have to go through the what I call the Messy Middle.
You will notice at the point that the two Axis converge (Learn/Change) is the word willingness. This is a key concept in learning, let me explain.
If you have a high willingness to learn but your willingness to change is low, you will remain stuck in the “Messy Middle”. If your willingness to change is high and your willingness to learn is low you will get stuck in the bottom of the trough of the “Messy Middle”
To navigate and build momentum to get through the “Messy Middle” you need to have equal parts of willingness to learn and willingness to change.
4 Self-Reflection exercises to help you get through the Messy Middle and Embrace Learning and Change:
- Confront reality: confront the way things are, see what is really going on, see the truth of your circumstances. Don’t sugar coat it, face it. Document it.
- Examine your attitudes and dogma: which are net negatives and net positives? (full program examine ones morals, ethics, values, principles)
- Release resistance: to what is, the way things are and attachment to being right, fear of failure, letting go drama, catastrophic-izing, reliving the pain and reject the identity (adversity, creative problem solver etc) you've formed that might seem positive but keeps you in a state of chaos or low level anxiety, yet always hyper vigilant and unconsciously setting an expectation of future chaos or troubles.
- Embrace Reinvention: what will it take to create forward movement: and acceptance that what was is over & willing to invest in making the movements to create tangible change which is forward movement. Take the steps, extract the lessons from my actions and make whatever changes are needed to live my dream.
The typical mistakes people make when learning are often related to the steepness of the learning curve. When attempting to learn a new skill or concept, it is easy to become overwhelmed and frustrated by the amount of information that needs to be processed.
Additionally, it is easy to become distracted and lose focus, leading to a longer learning process or difficulty retaining the information. Lastly, people may get stuck in a rut of repeating the same mistakes, leading to a lack of progress in the learning process.
There is no swipe file for your own learning curve. The things that inhibit our willingness to learn and change are:
- Habits: are routines that are most often unconscious automatic routines or activities with which we are very comfortable with.
- Attitudes: how you tend to characterize people, business and situations involves your mindset, outlook and feelings.
- Assumptions: conclusions you have made, consciously or unconsciously, color and filter what we think is possible or impossible.
- Beliefs: our beliefs and be inherited from others, education, institutions which we tend to defend. Sometimes they grow into “sacred cows” which we become so attached to they actually prevent us from observing anything different from our own cherished beliefs.
- Personal Morals and Ethics: are a set of rules made up of our intentions, ideals and principles which we believe, trust and do our best to live them.
It is normal to feel uncomfortable while you are going through a learning curve, that is a good sign. As long as you are willing to embracing your learning curve. What follows is a list of typical experiences that are often uncomfortable, for example:
- the amount of information that needs to be processed,
- the tendency to become distracted,
- the time it takes to wade through the messy middle, and
- the possibility of repeating the same mistakes.
Remember, the things that inhibit our willingness to learn and change are our habits, attitudes, assumptions, beliefs, as well as our personal morals and ethics.
- What am I assuming that has not been verified or proven?
- What don’t I know that I need to get to the bottom of? (Even though you think you might)
- Who has done something similar before and what can I learn from them?
- What is unknown, unexpected, unanswered or unanticipated and what can I do to deal with these uncertainties?
- What most concerns you about what you need to learn and why is it troubling you?
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